Make-up or Breakup? 4 Signs You Shouldn’t Save a Relationship
Relationships can make your life wonderful, but they can also make things so hard when they are coming to an end. Sometimes, you may still care deeply about someone even though the relationship is over. Hanging on to a relationship that is going nowhere is painful and can cause you to miss out on better opportunities. Now that you are questioning your relationship, watch out for these four signs that it is time to call it quits.
You Hear Warnings from Friends and Family
Your friends and family may have already voiced their reservations, or they may just make it clear through their actions that they are concerned. Think about how your current partner is received at group events. If most of the people that you love avoid them or give them the cold shoulder, then there could be a very good reason for their behavior.
You Have Different Views for the Future
Some of the most complicated breakups arise from relationships that have gone on for a long time. In this case, you may have changed what you want in life, or you might have realized that your partner is not who you thought. Seeking relationship advice from someone who can see beneath the surface of what’s going on can shed insight into whether or not you are destined to be with your partner. If not, then it might be better to let go and move on.
You Lack Good Communication
Relationships take work, and you need to be able to communicate with your partner to overcome challenges. If you resort to frequent arguments or feel disconnected, then this is a red flag. A partner who tries to communicate with you to find solutions to problems, however, might be someone that you can work with to salvage your relationship.
You Live Separate Lifestyles
At some point, you two may have drifted apart. Perhaps you go your separate ways on weekends, or you may even take vacations away from each other. While it is healthy to have different interests, couples that start doing things completely separately are often on the brink of a break up. Having a heart to heart conversation at this point will help you decide if it is possible to merge your lives back together.
The decision to break up or make up is not one to take lightly. Yet, you can rely upon other people to help guide you through the process of figuring out what to do. Whatever decision you make, feeling confident about your choice helps you find the path that leads you to greater happiness.
Brooke Chaplan is a freelance writer and blogger. She lives and works out of her home in Los Lunas, New Mexico. She loves the outdoors and spends most of her time hiking, biking, and gardening. For more information, contact Brooke via Facebook at facebook.com/brooke.chaplan or Twitter @BrookeChaplan